My Side of the Fence

The danger isn't going too far. It's that we don't go far enough.

Nags Head Trip

It's not a great picture but there is no denying it's the beach.  It's Nags Head.  I've been coning here off and on since I was in diapers!  My family went every year from shortly after I was born to about the time I was 22.  It's been off and on since then.  It's funny, when we first started coming here the only place to buy much of anything was at RV Cahoons General store.  A longer trip would get you to Ben Franklin hardware store.  Travellers Inn had soft serve ice cream….Jeanettes Pier had tons of video games and that was about it.  Seriously, when Travellers closed they all but rolled up the sidewalks.


Things have changed quite a bit since then.  Travellers Inn isn't called that anymore and they don't sell ice cream.  Jeanettes Pier is now some grand monument to piers in the Outer Banks – Gone are the video games.  

You know, Fishing Piers are an interesting microcosm of the unique place that are the Outer Banks.  When I was a kid, they all had "the house" at the beginning of the pier where they had bathrooms, sold tackle and maybe beer.  Some had video games.  Some had a narrow building on either side of the parking lot that served as a sort of motel.  Each room was only slightly larger than the beat up bed that each room housed.  Whether or not there was anything illicit going on in those little rooms I don't know but I do know that these were past times for the folks that lived close by the ocean.  All it cost was the fee to fish on the pier.  You could stay out there all day.

Oddly, the Piers were able to accommodate some mixing between locals and increasingly common vacationers – it's a cheap distraction, people like to fish and the Piers tossed in some video games as a cheap way to merchandise spare space.  Kids could play games if they got tired of fishing.  Jeanettes Pier went big with the video games.  There were just enough games (and girls) at Jeanettes that we would undertake the walk.  Maybe a mile and a half?  Couldn't wait to get there and burn up a pocket-full of quarters.

The Pier that I spent the most time on was the Outer Banks Pier.  There were 3 video games there back in the day.  The coolest of which was a submarine game.  The regulars really didn't care about the new people as long as they didn't interfere with the fishing.  Last week I stopped by this Pier and it's an interesting snapshot of how incremental change continues.  Yes, the same old "House" is at the beginning of the Pier.  The giant sliding screen door.  The tackle shop (I wonder if they ever actually sell any of those fishing poles?) is still there with a different Old Salt behind the counter.  However, on the ocean side of the Pier House they've built a bar!  It has 30 micro brews on draft.  It isn't the kind of place a jeans-with-untucked-dress-shirt-guy from Reston would be comfortable in but a guy from Manassas could knock one back with a local there. I'm glad to see that bit of evolution.

Indeed, most of the change is for the better – there new houses are nicer than the older houses and some great stores.  The Harris-Teeter there is among the best I've seen.  However, I do wish there was less traffic on the Beach road.  The most popular parts of the Outer Banks – from milepost 1 to about 18 are actually governed by three separate localities and they just can't seem to get the infrastructure thing together.  Some places have nice wide walking paths that are always packed and some have barely a shoulder with no sidewalk at all!  People would never tolerate that here…however, overall it's still a great family-friendly place to vacation.  

Sadly, cycling on the Outer banks is still very dangerous.  Kill Devil Hills and Kitty Hawk are just very dangerous places to cycle.  It isn't the out of town drivers as much as it is the locals and even the folks driving the local government vehicles.  They really don't give a crap about ped and bike traffic.  Recall I was almost killed by a trash truck in Kitty Hawk.  Being a local government guy (at the time), I emailed the local governments to pass along that information that a driver in their employ almost killed me and then left the scene.  The response from both Kitty Hawk and Nags Head reminded of the the movie "Jaws" when it becomes clear that there is a giant shark eating vacationers.  Recall the Mayor of Amity asked Dustin Hoffman if he "had a tooth" from the shark.  They couldn't get rid of me fast enough.  Had the same experience this morning.  A local public works truck passed me close enough I could have grabbed the mirror for a nice assist.  Dangerous to ride in the OBX….anyway

The other thing that has changed is that the houses have become Huge.  It's funny, back in the day, we stayed in a thousand square foot cracker box with no A/C.  I don't remember any hardships from those days – how hot it was when we went to bed or any of that.  I remember all the fun stuff my family did.  Fishing, renting little john boats with outboards, crabbing, sitting on the beach.  My Dad calling into work to solve some important problem from an actual phone booth (our cottages had no phones or tv).  He was in that thing for half an hour in the blazing sun and was drenched in sweat!  Nowadays if a house doesn't fit like 12 people, have wifi and a pool it isn't worth considering…:)  

And that's another thing (you kids get the hell off my lawn!!) what's with the pools at the beach?  At the beach?!?!  When I was a kid very few houses had pools but now many do.  A 12 year old me would have gotten a good belly laugh out of the notion that you needed a pool at the beach.  A 50 year old me still finds it curious but I'll admit it was nice….but I still make it to the beach just so I can say I did it…..

Could Trump be “Da Man” ?

Haven't written in awhile.  Been busy staying out of public life!  Working hard on my business.  The upcoming election is consuming virtually all of the news time available.  Not so much about Hillary…no, it's about Trump.  I'm involved a bit with the local republican party and when people ask me what I think of Trump…well, I'll be honest: if I don't feel like a long discussion I just tell them I don't know.  

I do know that I don't like Hillary.  She does not now nor has she ever seemed very transparent and honest.  A trail of questionable decisions and cover-ups seem to follow her everywhere she goes.  

That brings us back to Trump…..hrm.  The Atlantic had an interesting article on Trump today.  It is entitled "Could Trump Be the 'Man's Man' America Wants?"  In reading that article I think there's more right than wrong.  I agree with the notion that a majority of the American people would love a Man's Man to govern (an important word there) the country.  Ronald Reagan felt like a Man's man…or at least as close to that as you can be and also succeed in Hollywood and politics.  I do feel that Trump could be that man….but he also can't control himself and a Man's man or a President can do that.

The recent kerfuffle surrounding the Gold Star parents is a great example.  People are losing their minds that either a) Trump was attacked or b) that Trump attacked back and Mr. Khan was a secret agent or whateverthehell.  People shout, "what do you expect Trump to do, SIT THERE AND TAKE IT????"  

The answer is simple: yes.  

I expect my President to be disciplined and decent enough to take some abuse and just shut it.  This isn't abstract to me.  I've seen it first hand.  When I was on the council (COUNCIL – a local government idiot, not PRESIDENT) we'd have people come down to speak about our budget and invariably someone, we'll say his name is Fred, would talk about how he was being "taxed out of Manassas while you fat cats line your own pockets" (true story).  

Did I immediately dash off a tweet calling Fred a deadbeat and a loser as he couldn't afford to live in Manassas so we didn't want him?  Did I engage Fred in a weekslong, spiraling duel to the death?  Did third parties have to get involved in order to keep me from going off the ledge?

No.  I sat there and took it.  Sometimes that's harder.  It is what I would expect my President to do.

Mr. & Mrs. Khan are gold star parents.  Their son went to the cemetery with an American flag on his casket.  I've been to a couple of those services.  They're hard.  Shut the hell up Mr. Trump.  

This goes to the heart of my problem with Trump: why fight the Khans?  It only ends poorly.  You have an opponent with 30 years of wreckage to shoot at.  An economy that is sputtering and you have brought a raft of new ideas and issues to the table that a majority of Americans want to see our leaders talk about: getting fair trade deals, America first, education, immigration, paying our "fair share" in NATO – those issues are all Winners.  I don't like the idea that a Republican candidate would campaign solely on fear but it would work.  Those issues, or combinations of them, are winners in this election but Trump is so undisciplined that he can't stick with any of them.  He is consumed with attacking individuals, opponents, just about anything that slips onto his radar.  It's narcissistic, ugly, and from a pure political standpoint, it's a loser.

Could Trump, as The Atlantic says, lead a "post religious right"?  Yes, but he cannot seem to stay focused long enough to do that.  I think it is more likely that the realignment of the GOP continues for awhile yet.  The election will shed some light on this realignment but it will not be some cataclysm that provides all of the answers.


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